Why do people cope up with all this suffering, when there is nothing, and if at all there is any, it is only equivalent to something that should be flushed down a toilet.
Basically, the common characteristics of depression are failure, to comprehend realities, losing track of your regular activities, becoming disorganized, dwelling on past miseries and this innate fear that something bad might happen to people whom you like. Worst of all, you tend to gain satisfaction from these…
In short, very few people come to terms with the fact that they have it or accept the fact that they suffer from it…. Perhaps, if depression was referred to orgasm, with the same traits a lot of people would only willingly accept it… mainly because of the fear of faking it….
So what does this imply…. We have it yet we find it hard in accepting it…. Just because of the name…
So, it may be easy in resolving or coming to terms with it….. In fact it is easier than you think.
But it takes some time, a bottle of common sense, some selfishness and a lit bit of the devil in you.
I say this not because, you have to come to terms with the prevailing social system first, and then to slowly shake of the social supporters of such a system.
In short, like in every aspect of work or business, people need a scapegoat, and it is high time you realize that if you are not careful, then they tend to make you the evangelical scapegoat. Unfortunately, by the time you realize that it’s too late...
Hence the faster you come to terms with yourself, the better… so where do we start ?
Take time off, and handle each one of your hypothetical miseries [ the ones you are afraid off and the ones you try to hide ]
Don’t give way to any anger or remorse. But pass these miseries down to people as if you are sharing something valuable with them… that is to say…. imagine that you have received a huge parcel of food or something even more valuable, and you would like to share that with your friends as you normally would do…
Don’t ever make that appear like a hand-me-downs… that it is to say… that you are passing it on to them because you have too much of that item [be it food or whatever] and you have little choice but to share it.
Basically, make it appear to them as something valuable and generate from them a word of genuine thank you feeling… In this way, you too won’t feel bad about what you are doing.
Unfortunately, you have to be a little selfish, or else others would do it to you and you wouldn’t realize it… A champion giver is one who receives thanks, commendations and even gifts in return for something he passes on… Talk about buying miseries…. This is advertising/ public relations at its best...
After a week, list down the number of miseries and fears left.
Should there be no improvement, don’t despair. Go back to the same schedule, and you realize that a few of your old hypothetical fears and worries don’t seem to bother you anymore...
Do this again after two weeks. Note the improvement.
Now, also you would start receiving feedbacks from the people you have shared your prizes. If there is a positive response, then you are on the road to recovery….
Alternately, if your friends, colleagues, neighbors or relatives start politely turning down your prize giving habit, then you have something to worry about... Also note, don’t overdo your generosity...
It could also help, if you discuss your misapprehensions and problems with a counselor or a third-party whom you can trust...
Just remember that this is a common social problem… and that people refer it to by different names...
Each week or two weeks, change your approaches, modus operandi and you would be on the road to recovery.
Perhaps, it would even turn out to be one of the best experiences and lessons you ever learn.
Dude, you will enjoy it after that… believe me.
Most of all it gives you an inner confidence that you never knew that you had it in you, all along
